Jenny Lindsay in the Times on where we are now – talking to members of the support group for gender-critical gay men who have to gather in secret:
Alan lives in a small town. Meeting other gay men is not easy. He was recently banned from the gay dating app Grindr. I ask why. “Well, I put in my profile I’m not attracted to women, y’see, and apparently that’s awfully offensive.”
Though he laughs, Danny pulls out his phone to show me the Grindr profile of a young “gay trans man” (a female who identifies as a gay male). “That’s what we’re dealing with. He gets chucked off, and she gets to stay?”
Having lived through it, Joe judges this trend as part of “the most existential crisis facing gay men since Aids”.
He is referring not just to the younger men’s gall that gay men are being pushed to reframe their sexualities to accommodate females. Joe is profoundly angered that, as a “fey child”, he might have been pushed to consider himself trans if he had been born today.
Modern gay culture feels “oppressive”, he says. It is a word used repeatedly throughout the day….
In between the free-flowing ales, the laughter, the camaraderie and solace, Joe summed up the feelings of the group, lamenting: “Having to meet in secret, fearing loss of employment for who we are. Having been through the whole gay liberation experience, it’s absolutely enraging to find myself back here again.”
And that's why the LGB needs to split from the T.
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